Updated: Feb 28, 2021
This card actually fell out of the deck as I was shuffling and to be honest it's pretty on point. Like I said this deck is great for calling you out on your shit and this has certainly been coming up for me lately.
This is something that everyone has struggled with at some point, especially when we begin to compare ourselves to others. When you look at what other people are doing and start comparing, it's often with the sense that they have something that you don’t. And this doesn’t necessarily have to out of jealousy or any other negative emotion. In fact, for myself this usually presents itself as admiration; “Damn, I wish I was talented like that” or “I wish I had the time to do that” or even “I wish I had the balls to do that!”
For me this comes up when I am thinking about products to make or blogs to write. I think to myself. “Why would anyone want to hear what I have to say?” or “Why would someone buy this from me when there are so many other options.” We give up on ourselves before we even try? Is this a defense mechanism? Possibly; you can’t be disappointed if you already have the bar set low.
But perhaps the most frustrating part of all is that we know better! It's easy for me to offer examples from education since I spend most of my time in a school building surrounded by learning. Think back to when you were in school learning a math problem. Your teacher has explained how to solve this problem 13 times and you still have no idea what you are doing. So you ask your friend to explain it to you and bam it makes perfect sense! Why though? Was your teacher explaining it wrong? No. It just wasn’t explained in a way that was accessible to you.
This is where the idea of value to offer others comes in. Every single person has a unique and beautiful mind that works unlike anyone else’s. Sometimes the message or product that is being presented, isn’t presented in a way that is accessible to everyone, and that’s ok. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t try though. Someone out there needs to hear what you have to say in the way that you are going to say it, even if that someone is yourself.
Your value is not something that is determined by anything outside of yourself. Your value is not dependent on what you can do or provide for other people. Every thought you have, every word you speak, and every idea you create is valuable.